7. It is extremely useful for a teenager to communicate not only with peers, but also with smart, interesting adults. When a child reaches adolescence, he often loses the desire to spend time with his parents. And this is absolutely normal, it does not indicate parental errors. On the contrary, if the child does not let go of your hand, does not want to go alone for a birthday to a friend, does not want to go to the camp - this is already a cause for concern. We must soberly understand: the parents will not be with the child all their life. And in order for his life to be full, successful and happy, he must be socialized, that is, he must be able to build relationships with his peers, and with other people's adults, and with strangers. But for the child to be able to - he must learn this, such skills do not fall from the sky. And how to learn this? Who? First, the child learns this in practice, communicating with peers at school...
5. Be careful with the prohibitions: sometimes they can be enforced at too high a cost, and a ban, the observance of which cannot be controlled, provokes lies and destroys trust. Here we must immediately clarify - what is meant by the ban. In a family where there is mutual trust and respect between children and adults, parental restrictions are clear and justified: they explain to children that there are some things that are absolutely unacceptable, nasty, mean. What can not be done in any case! Not out of fear of punishment, but on the basis of our ideas about good and evil. First of all, these are biblical commandments, the violation of which (not only in Christian culture, by the way!) Is perceived as an absolute evil. You can not steal. Envy (do not covet ox, donkey, and so on), anger (including ill will, aggression) are unacceptable. This categorical imperative is brought up with examples of literature, biblical parables, films a...
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