5. Be careful with the prohibitions: sometimes they can be enforced at too high a cost, and a ban, the observance of which cannot be controlled, provokes lies and destroys trust. Here we must immediately clarify - what is meant by the ban. In a family where there is mutual trust and respect between children and adults, parental restrictions are clear and justified: they explain to children that there are some things that are absolutely unacceptable, nasty, mean. What can not be done in any case! Not out of fear of punishment, but on the basis of our ideas about good and evil. First of all, these are biblical commandments, the violation of which (not only in Christian culture, by the way!) Is perceived as an absolute evil. You can not steal. Envy (do not covet ox, donkey, and so on), anger (including ill will, aggression) are unacceptable. This categorical imperative is brought up with examples of literature, biblical parables, films a...
6. The teenager is a social being. Peers are more important to him than parents. This is a common cause of conflicts in the family. Unfortunately, this is a normal stage of maturation. In the future, your child will work and live among peers. But if it is right to build relationships with his friends, it will improve your relationship with him. It is very important that your teenager's friends be at your home. Even if they are used on most of the time they spend in his room - it's like they are in your home. They sit with you at the table, you see them. And if you want to know your child’s friends, hear their conversations, see what they do, make your home hospitable and warm for them. Be friendly and interested with them, take part in their problems, try to help in their difficulties. If something hurt you in these guys, it seemed strange, you can ask: "You know, I don't understand what is in it ..."....
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