The 9 most important thing of Teenager Guide

Mountains of books have been written on teenage psychology. However, teachers and parents still tend to make the same mistakes. Why does this happen, and how should they act correctly? Based on our research, we explain this in detail below. The following are the ten main factors.

1. Children are not copies of their parents — they are unique individuals with their own thoughts and personalities. It is important for parents and teachers to try to understand them and reflect on their own teenage years. However, it is equally important to remember that today’s teenagers may have different reactions, experiences, and developmental needs than previous generations.

And it's not just that now is another time, that in your childhood there were no social networks, gadgets and online games. The main thing is that children almost never repeat their parents. It is not necessary for the parents of the honors pupils to be excellent pupils, and for the obedient and tidy the children will be obedient and neat.

Many family problems and even tragedies happen because parents are trying to make their children happy with what they themselves had been deprived of in childhood, which they only dreamed of. For example, as a child, Dad wanted to become a musician, but he didn’t grow together, and now he almost drives his siblings to a music school with a stick, which is such a happiness! And scions to music are indifferent, football is much more interesting to them. Often the violence ends with the child starting to hate first the music school, and then the music.

There are features of adolescence that should be known and taken into account in order to minimize mistakes in communication with teenage children.

First of all, it would be good to understand what happens to your children when they enter puberty. It's not just a matter of physiological changes. There are more subtle things, sociocultural stereotypes, which, according to some scholars, have their origin from prehistoric times, when, by the age of 14, young people left their parents and started their own families.

In order to make this break easier, emotional alienation of parents and children was necessary. One of the manifestations of this alienation is the conviction of most adolescents that adults do not understand anything in their “subtle nature” and in general, in life. They listen to the advice arrogantly and ironically grin at your absolutely correct words. It resents, discourages, distresses, but, unfortunately, this is normal.

For both sides, it is better if parents accept the peculiarities of their children’s adolescence, as inevitable and transient troubles. Resent, especially out loud, is not constructive. It is better to translate communication into the plane of mutual respect and mutual attention.

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